5 Signs Your Job Is Killing You And How To Save Yourself
Unfortunately, money makes the world go around and almost everything in this world requires it. And, as money doesn’t grow on trees, everybody needs a job to be able to eat, afford a place to live, buy stuff and move around.
So, to that effect, we get jobs, sometimes you love them, sometimes they’re just fine and on some occasions they suck and they slowly and silently kill you.
Extreme as that may seem, many of us have at least once been on that last one situation.
If you haven’t, congratulations! Maybe you’ve got a vocational job or just enjoy working where you are. Good for you!
But if you’re like many people, who have their dreams, aspirations and hobbies, and their jobs are just a way to get money to fund those, you need to be aware that, your job, convenient as it may be in your life, may be draining your vital energy.
Sometimes you don’t realize, or don’t want to, because you’re kind of in a comfort zone that, even if it’s bad for you, gives you just what you need in a daily basis, so you end up coping with it.
On the long run though, this can take a toll on you any minute, so let’s find out which are the signs that tell you your job might be killing you.
1. You Don’t Want To Go To Work
When the alarm clock sounds, every single morning, you just can’t believe it.
You got that feeling that soon you’ll be there again. At that place you don’t want to be in.
Everything you do from the moment you wake up is loaded with that anxiety, that heavy burden that won’t go away and fills up your mind with compulsive negative thoughts.
Have you felt it?
This is the first red flag that states: your job is killing you. Because that daily repetitive negative thoughts in your mind end up taking away the best of you and leaving just the remains of who you used to be.
2. You’re Yearning For The Weekend Every Single Day
Monday to Thursday you’re miserable… and then TGIF!
The only moment you feel a glimpse of happiness is when you realize that today is that day of the week. It’s Friday! And you’ve got two complete days to finally be you, do your thing, live.
You have spent the whole week counting down the hours, the minutes, even at some point the seconds, for those two days of freedom.
But you know what? Two days go by so fast, you don’t even notice it’s already Sunday, and the countdown starts again.
This turns into a torture wheel. You feel trapped, since that little break didn’t do too much for your mental health, and you couldn’t even rest, since you wanted to make so many things…
And we’re just talking about those jobs which allow you to have a weekend, let alone the rest which wouldn’t even extend this courtesy.
3. You’ve Got A Bad Mood That Doesn’t Go Away
Days go by, same routine, same old…
Nothing changes and you start to think it’s going to be forever, nothing seems to indicate your life is going to change and that makes you angry.
Being trapped like this, feeling like that is how your life is going to be for the next decades can drive you nuts. It’s torture!
Then, your attitude changes and you become more sensitive and little things are overwhelming.
Have you realized that? Have people told you you’ve changed?
4. You Have A Feeling That You’re Losing Your Time
Time goes by very fast, and you suddenly notice it’s been a while since you felt into this endless self-destructive spiral.
At least you noticed, and that’s a good thing, because you can do something about it.
You start thinking about all the time lost into that job you hate, and all the things you put off because you were too tired, too angry, too focused on the bad side of everything.
And time never comes back, you can’t catch up, you just have what’s ahead of you now.
Do you have that feeling of lost years?
5. You’d Rather Be Doing Anything But Your Job
“Anything would be better than being here”.
Man, if I got a dollar for every time I’ve heard that expression in all the jobs I’ve been.
That’s desperation, your mind seeks to escape your current situation or else it will collapse.
You picture yourself in a different variety of situations, and they all feel better. You even recall other opportunities you let go, which sounded awful when you turned them down, but now they look like heaven.
Have you felt that before?
How Do You Save Yourself From This Situation?
If you meet at least one of these signs, you need to know you job is slowly killing you.
If all of them sound too familiar to you, things must be starting to get serious.
But you also need to know that you can change that.
Do you want to change it?
Are you ready to kick drama out of your life and start living it?
It’s all in your head and it requires taking action.
There’s two different ways in which you can approach the problem, and they depend on which kind of person you are, what is your personal situation and how serious it’s really gotten.
But the main thing for this to work is your complete certainty that you do not want your life to remain as it is now, so you’re going to change your life for good.
The Progressive Way
If you’re like those kind of people who are afraid of extreme changes, you will have to adopt this method.
The first thing you need to know is that everything starts in yourself.
You need a change in your mindset. This is the starting point.
Nobody said it was going to be easy. Winning the lottery is another way to escape, but as it doesn’t depend on us, and the odds of that happening are petty low, we’re going to focus on the options we can work with, and this one requires some effort from your side.
We usually focus on the negative, think too much, don’t learn from our mistakes… And these facts make everything around us worse than it really is, since the problem is on us.
So, to solve this problem there are two perspectives you need to take care of:
Start living the Now
You are too focused on the bad that’s been happening to you during the last years. And that’s been magnifying all the bad things, and shrinking the good things, with the outcome being a depressing situation.
So, first, you need to stop bringing the past up and focus on the present moment.
When you achieve this first objective, you will see how your reactions to what happens around you change and you see things from another angle.
This will improve your current situation a lot. I’m not saying that all of a sudden you’re going to love your job, but you will see everything around it differently, since you have made a inner progress and now your job is not running your life anymore, you do.
Focus on what you love to do
Now that you’re living the present, and your job is just a tool to get what you really want, you can start doing what you really love to do: think about those places you want to travel to, those hobbies you never had the chance to dedicate your time to since you were too tired and sad.
You can do all those things now and enjoy them. This will make you happy and you’ll get that feeling that you’re enjoying life again.
You can even start your own business online out of your passion. And that means, if you put your heart and soul on that, you’ll be able to quit your job someday and be finacially free.
So if you’ve been wondering how to leave a job you hate, this is the safe way.
The Extreme Way
Alright, although I’d encourage you to follow The Progressive Way, it’s entirely up to you how you do this, so I’m going to give you the other choice here.
There’s another way to solve the problem with your job killing you and ruining your life at once.
This way involves guts in a way you’ve never thought.
Did the idea of leaving everything behind and just walk away ever cross your mind?
Now is the moment when this scenario comes into place.
You don’t have time to lose, you are just so fed up with everything that The Progressive Way is not even an option to consider…
OK. If your family and money situation allow it…
I suggest you think about what would make you happy right now…
That dream you’ve ever had chasing you in your sleep, about living in that city you once went on vacation to and fell in love with…
That idea of traveling for the rest of your life with no fixed address, just soaking up everything the world has to offer…
Well, if you’re up for it, if this is the only way for you to be happy and free, just go for it and take The Extreme Way.
So, my friend, what is it going to be?
Both ways are cool.
Some people will choose the conservative one, others are more radical, but the only thing I ask you both is do not stay how you are if you’re not happy.
Life’s too short to wait for something to happen, and to not be at peace with yourselves.
Whichever way you choose, try to first reach a inner state of stillness and peace, it will help you handle what’s to come in a better and balanced way.
I hope this article helps you overcome a difficult situation.
Please, feel free to comment what’s on your mind.
Have you been in a situation like this one?
How did you get out of it?